The tool that shapes your destiny
If you were a block of stone, and you had an image in your mind of what you would want to look like after sculpting yourself, a set of decisions would be the chisel you would use to chip away the parts of yourself that you don’t want to remain. When the process of chipping is done, what’s left is the work of art you designed called, you. There’s a sense of irony about this whole concept, because you shape yourself every day. You may not be aware of it. You can’t help it, because your self-image has to express itself. You are constantly deciding who you are continuously. Even if you don’t make a decision, you have decided something by default. Some decisions have a minor impact on the shape and direction of your life. Such things are which flavor of ice cream you want to eat at the time: vanilla, chocolate, or chunky monkey. The types of decisions I want to focus on right now are the major life altering ones, the ones that ultimately decide the quality of your future. Can we really change ourselves with our decisions? Can we change the direction of our lives?
Let’s look at a couple of definitions. First, a decision is a mental action to choose a thought that leads to an action to bring about a desired result. Secondly, action is the physical movement you do in the physical world, hoping to get to the desired result. We live in a world that is affected by both spiritual and physical influence. It’s Gods law. God calls it seed time and harvest. We can call it cause and effect. All physical things are preceded by a spiritual idea. You can’t see an idea except for the image that you hold of it in your mind. Once you have a clear image of what you want, the creation process is done. That’s cool huh? All you need now is the manifestation of the idea, and that’s where the action comes in. It takes longer for the manifestation to occur because the work is trial and error and confronting a whole lot of mental baggage. That’s exactly the way you shape your destiny. Before I go on, let’s define destiny. I define destiny as the arrival at a chosen mental or environmental state of achievement that came from the results of a significant amount of action over an indefinite amount of time. For those people who hold an opposing view, and who want to accept things the way they are, destiny would be defined as whatever conditions life happens to dump on you at any given point. There are a lot of those kinds of people out there. I hear them speaking to each other in their casual conversations all the time. They say things like, “It is what it is,” and, “Whatcha going to do about it, right?” That’s their destiny, and for them, they’re right. Have you ever heard the saying, if you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right. How can you be right about both things? It’s a matter of perception, which affects your decisions. That’s gihugic, isn’t it? Uh oh, I hear some of your inner critics screaming and resisting that bit of information. I know. We all fight with decisions and belief every time we reach for higher achievement. That’s the process and it must be engaged.
The process goes as such. You entertain an idea. Then, there is a decision to act on that idea. If you make enough decisions on the idea, you’ll change your beliefs. Your different beliefs will motivate you to do different actions. The actions change the course of your life, because they lead to a set of different results. Some results will be wanted and others unwanted, but it’s all good because it’s all experience. You’ll figure out how to get mostly wanted results, and over the course of time, there you are at your destiny. If you fizz out anywhere in this equation, you lose the momentum toward your destiny and head for a different destiny. That’s called lack of commitment.
Wrap your mind around this. Environment affects the decisions we make, and that’s important. Two people are born into the same family. Let’s call them twin A and Twin B. To make sure they won’t be exposed to the same mindset, attitudes, and belief systems, we’ll separate them at birth and give them to other people to raise. Twin A will be given to the movie characters Tony Stark and Pepper from the movie Ironman. We’ll give twin B to Ben Chang, the character on the TV series Community. Think for a moment about this. Can you guess what would happen to those children? I am highly confident that they won’t be the same. Twin A will be surrounded by wealth and privilege on the positive side, and extreme arrogance and disregard for others on the negative, except from Pepper. Twin B would be surrounded by delusional assumptions, and if I may say, a plethora of other psychological abnormalities. There would probably be no female influence because, well, it’s Ben Chang. My point; each twin will form a mindset from the environment where they were immersed, thus adopting different mindsets or belief systems, which will cause each one to make different decisions, giving them different destinies. It’s all connected. Their mindsets or paradigms frame them into a cognitive bias.
Here is another example of the importance of decisions and environment? In the Bible, God tells his followers to make choices. Make a decision. I quote, Deut. 30: 19: “I call on heaven and earth to witness against you today that I have presented you with life and death, the blessing and the curse. Therefore, choose life, so that you will live, you and your descendants.” God is talking about his people getting off course and getting caught up in idolatry. Why does it matter to him? Because he knows that, a decision leads to another decision, which leads to a destiny. He didn’t want the results of an idolatrous life as a destiny for his people.
In my own life, my wife and I faced a life-threatening situation for her. We kept going even when it looked like it was impossible for her to live. In fact, some doctors volunteered the information that she wouldn’t make it. When we outlasted their predictions, they wondered why she was still alive and why I was still sane. We made friends with some people in the same situation, and they were nowhere near as bad. They died in front of us due to their situation, but we decided to keep believing and going in spite of what it looked like. Today she is here, we are happily married, and we have even stronger faith.
So you can change your life by the decisions you make. You have to lose your mind and go for it. Let me explain what I mean by my expression, lose your mind. Over time, we all adopt a certain mindset. In order to do more or better, we have to lose that old mindset and replace it with a new one. We have to lose it, so to speak, so it doesn’t affect us anymore. Now that you understand better, lose your mind and go do something you’ve never done.