If you don’t change direction, you may end up where you are heading – Lao Tzu
Have you ever noticed when you begin to stretch beyond your normal limits of achievement, there seems to be an invisible something pulling you back to your comfort zone? Do you know what that is? It’s your old self showing up to sabotage your efforts. The old anti-success self doesn’t want to step past that seemingly invisible limit to become more than you are. I’ve heard motivational speaker Bob Proctor refer to it as the terror barrier. In short, it’s old programming.
You may be asking theses questions: What is old programming? How does it start? Where does it come from? This programming sets the limits of your self-image. It starts in your early years without you even being aware of it. You watch and mimic your parents and inadvertently pick up their attitudes and beliefs about any number of things. I want to make it clear, that the way your parents, role models, and peers have conditioned you to think isn’t wrong per se, if you want what they have. Their thought processes served them well for their purposes. But for you, if you want to achieve a level higher than that of which you were born into, it will not work. You can’t get new results with old thinking. Here are four strategies to help you get past your old limiting beliefs.
Before moving on, let me shine light on where these limiting beliefs come from in story form. A little boy named Sam is walking in a department store holding his mothers hand. Sam‘s eyes grow wide with excitement at the very moment he sees a Disney Infinity Marvel Superheroes Pack. Mom feels his hesitation in Sam’s stride, looks down at him, and sees the expression on her son’s face. She looks in the direction he is looking, and her heart melts.
“I’m sorry son, but we can’t afford that.” Sam watches as another mother and son walk up to the toy, snatch it off the shelf, and walk away. Sam’s mom pulls him away, and starts walking to another part of the store. As they are walking, Sam begins to ask himself a series of questions something like the following: Why can’t we afford that? How come they can afford it? In fact, how come it seems that we can’t afford anything, except daddy’s beer? Over the years, Sam watches his mom and dad save the extra ketchup packets from the fast food stores they visit. He hears them put down people with wealth. Even when they have a chance to be blessed by someone, they refuse it, say they are comfortable, and doing just fine. By the time Sam is a teenager, he has concluded that he isn’t worthy of nice things and being wealthy is bad. He might even think poor is comfortable.
Years later, someone asks Sam to attend an opportunity meeting. Sam comes to the meeting because he wants to do better than he is doing. The person that invited him shows him what he needs to do to have the nice things, better health, or whatever. On one level, Sam is excited and ready to go. The new things excite him. He’s even willing to find a vintage Disney toy because he never received one when he was a child. As soon as he is asked to go to the next step, he says no without even thinking about it. In fact, he’s not even sure why he said no. On a deeper level, Sam has a negative concept of wealth and has a self-image that tells him he isn’t worthy of nice things. He thinks and feels this way because it has been demonstrated to him by his parents and his peers his whole life. Do you know someone similar to Sam? No worries. Here is a four-step strategy on how to deal with old negative anti-success programming.
First, you must become aware that you have that negative programming bouncing around in your brain. It’s easy to discover. All you have to do is pay attention to how you feel, and what you say about having something you don’t have yet. I’ll help you find out by asking you a question. Answer honestly please. There is a three-story, five bathroom, three half-bath, seven bedroom, ocean-side estate on a three acre lot. It also includes a four car garage, a game room, and guest quarters. I ask you, if you can have it, would you take it? Pay attention to what you feel and answer honestly. Are you worried about cleaning it? Are you worried about the taxes? Are you saying it only me, why do I need all of that? Did you say, hell yeah, show me the money? Did you refuse it straight out? Why did you refuse it? Why you refused tells a lot about your tastes, beliefs, and self-image. If you don’t want to live by the ocean is one thing, but not being able to see yourself living in the home is all together a different animal. There is no wrong answer. This exercise was only to help you become aware of where you are in the process of getting what you want.
Secondly, change how you think and how you speak. You get what you say. We all have to be ever mindful of how we speak because we live on the level we speak. The word says you’ll be snared by the words of your mouth. Speak in faith for what you want, do what you are supposed to do, and your surrounding will begin to manifest and rise up to your level of faith. It will happen inside you first.
Third, believe you are worthy of all you wish to accomplish. If you don’t believe you are worthy of it, you’ll never believe you can have it. If you don’t believe you can have it, you’ll never say you can get it. Remember, it you think you can or you think you can’t you are right.
Forth and last, be patient while sewing the seeds of action and the seeds of words as you go after your dream. You are living in the harvest of what you have sewn in the past. Begin now creating a new past by changing what you are doing, thinking, and saying now, so your new future will be the harvest of what the past you are creating now. You will be on the inside what you need to be, before it shows up on the outside. Keep talking positive. Keep showing up to where you need to show up to get what’s yours. Did you hear that? Keep showing up where you need to show up to get what’s yours. In Gods time, it will be there. Bless you all. If you don’t have a vision, please get one. If you have one, keep after it. It’s very important because when you do well, it benefits others. A rising tide raises all ships. Be the tide. Have an awesome day.