How to Handle Life’s Negatives

By

 Jonathan Desaussure

 

“Life isn’t about how hard you can hit; it’s about how much you can get hit and keep moving forward.” – Rocky Balboa

(Movie, Balboa 2006)

 

Everyone has negative situations occur in their lives. Negative happens to all of us. There’s no escaping it. There are two things you need to do when you are facing adversity.

Before I tell you what they are, I want to prove it to you with your help. You’ll get it by taking note of the person and his behavior I’ll talk about in my anecdote.

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Quote – Critics and Criticism

“The artist doesn’t have time to listen to the critics. The ones who want to be writers read the reviews, the ones who want to write don’t have the time to read reviews.”
– William Faulkner

Perceive the Power of Persistence – it’s in you.

Energy and Persistence Conquer all things. – Benjamin Franklin

 

If you have lived long enough, you’ll have noticed that there is a natural order to things.  It takes a while for us to see that order sometimes, but its there.  It’s always there.  God  has put it there in hopes that we would see it and discover  a law in effect.

Lets looks at some examples.  I ‘ll call this the law of persistence. When you and I exercise consistently, do we not get more fit? Have you ever seen trees grow in places that would seem impossible for them grow?  Did you know it took 5-6 million years for the Colorado River to form the Grand Canyon?  Now that’s persistent.

What all these examples have in common is opposition, resistance – something  in the way of it’s objective. Now, is that the blessing or the curse? I guess it depends on how we decide to look at it.  Those of us that have goals don’t have 6 million years to achieve them. If we don’t take into account we have limited time, I vote this way of looking at resistance is a curse. However; if we look at the obstacles as a necessary factor in development, that is the blessing.  We all have the ability to adapt. God designed it that way.  We adapt in our minds if we have the mental capacity to do so, and  we adapt in our bodies. If that’s true, then why don’t we all have what we want? That’s another seminar, but one of the most obvious reasons is what I call the challenge vs comfort rule.  Comfort is nice. It doesn’t require much mental or physical energy. There is no pain.  That’s the permanent sweet spot for most of us.  You know what I’m talking about.  It’s much easier to eat that slice of pecan pie that’s 800 calories than it is to do 800 calories of exercise to burn it off.  To achieve, we must press on until. That requires energy, pain, sacrifice, and discipline. In other words, putting ourselves in the challenge zone.

So what’s pushing you no? What has you frustrated? What situation is nonsense to you to deal with, but necessary to conquer in order to achieve your goal?   Don’t be discouraged. Press on. I’m going to talk to you like I talk to myself.  Look the damn problem in the eye and kick it’s ass.  I kick your problems *%!. You will eventually win. If you don’t achieve your goal when you want, at least you’ll be a lot further along.

Smile and be blessed.

Jonathan Desaussure

 

 

How to Limit Distraction and Feel in Control of Your Day — Leadership Freak

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HOW TO HANDLE ADVERSITY

By
Jonathan Desaussure

Photo compliments of Pixabay.com

Life isn’t always about holding good cards,
but playing a bad hand well. – Jack London

Two men are sitting behind their desks, which happen to be directly across from one another. Daniel, who is thirty five, wearing a dark blue suit, and a red tie, leans back in his chair and kicks his feet on top of his desk, so everyone can see his black, time-honored, wing–tip shoes. He’s chews on the tip of his pen, as he looks at Henry, who is forty, wearing dingy grey pants, a short-sleeve white shirt, and a clip-on tie.
“You got that position yet?” Henry asks Daniel with a tone of sarcasm in his voice, hoping to knock the expression of confidence off of Daniels face. Daniel takes his pen out of his mouth and says,
“I just want you to know, that position as the assistant director of administration is mine. Don’t you worry about it.”
“Yeah right,” says Henry. “That’s what you’ve been saying for the past two years. They aren’t going to hire you. They haven’t given it to anybody. You should give up. Nobody is gonna get it.”
“They will my friend, They will,” says Daniel. “They have to. Only Slater and I qualify for the job, and I have the most experience.”
“Says who?” asks Henry.
“Morrison,” says Daniel, and then a smug smile settles on his face.
“Morrison wouldn’t know his ass from a hole in the ground. Why don’t you just give it up and be happy working along with the rest of us ordinary worker bees, man,” says Henry.
Daniel rolls his eyes, puts his feet down, turns away from Henry, and goes back to work. While he’s working, he pauses a moment, glances at Henry, and mumbles to himself, “I don’t know why I even talk to that guy. He has no motivation what’s so ever.”

Morrison, who is fifty, stout, and clean shaven, walks into the work room. The light conversation and papers rustling in the background fade to silence. All eyes fall upon him. There is a long awkward moment, as he looks back at all the faces that are looking at him. The expressions on their faces let him know, that they know, something is up. He clears his throat and announces,
“It has been bought to my attention that the company is downsizing.” Immediately, there’s a short wave of verbal expressions, contorted faces, and sighs of shock. Henry’s mouth drops open. Daniel is puzzled. His face shows it. He scratches his head.

Morrison continues, “At lunch today, all of you please stop by the personnel office and pick up an envelope with your name on it. In that envelope will be a letter that tells you if you are laid off, or if you’ll get minimal part time.”
“What the hell is minimal part time?” asks Henry.
“Between eight and fifteen hours a week,” says Morrison, and then, he turns around and walks out of the room. The workers trade blank stares.

It’s lunch time. There’s a line of people outside the entrance of the personnel office. “Patricia Slater,” yells a woman from inside the office. Slater walks into the office rather slowly. The woman barks out some other names. Some employees walk out of the office, upset. Slater walks past Henry and Daniel, distraught.
Daniel gives Salter a sideways glance.
“Did you see that, Henry? Slater is balling. Maybe she got the ax.”
“You’re gonna get it too buddy. They are seriously downsizing. That gets cut from the top,” says Henry.

The woman calls Daniel’s name. He walks into the personnel office and over to the desk. With an expressionless face, she hands him his envelope. He takes it, opens it, and looks inside. The woman calls Henry’s name. He swallows hard and walks up to the woman. He takes his envelope and looks inside.

Daniel and Henry meet in the hallway moments later.
“What did you get?” asks Daniel.
“Doesn’t matter. I quit! Damn this crap,” says Henry, and then he slaps his envelope into Daniels hand and walks away. Daniel looks at Henry’s notice. It says Henry will work eleven hours a week. Daniel shakes his head and says to himself, “I don’t know what he’s complaining about. They only gave me eight. I’ll use the extra thirty two hours to look for another job.”

Events like this happen every day. There isn’t such a thing as living in a perfect world. Unexpected pregnancies, sudden divorces, or surprise chronic sicknesses, are among the things that happen us all. Surprise events are the strong winds that blow on us suddenly and from any given direction. It’s just one of those things are beyond our control. You may be thinking, Jonathan, what are we poor souls to do in such when things hit us like that? Just be dust in the wind? Roll over and wet on ourselves? Let the winds of changes take us where they may? I say no! I’ve learned to keep on keeping on. We must remember we always have the power to choose how we are going to respond to adversity. Henry took his news and probably made his situation worse by quitting in anger. Daniel chose to use the new found free time to find profitable work elsewhere. Same situation for both men, but very different responses to the situation, and their responses will make all the difference in their futures. As we move down the river of life, we are bound to hit the rapids at some point on our journey.

Here are five things we can do to help us navigate life’s rapids.

  1. Don’t give into doubts. Once we think we can’t, we can’t.
  2. Decide not to make things worse.
  3. Decide where we want to go from that point and get going.
  4. Decide to be resilient in the pursuit of what it is you want.
  5. Dot the best you can. You’ll get better if you don’t quit.

Join me next time when I share a much needed skill to help you handle the adversity.

 
I hope this helps you and blesses you in some situation you may be facing in your life. Remember, it ain’t over until it’s ALL over.


 

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