Critics Criticize and Doers Do

Doers do, and critics criticize. It’s interesting that critics think their way is the only way to do something. Some of them really want to do that thing they’re criticizing, but they are so  busy criticizing that they fail leave the time to do that very thing.



How to Handle Life’s Negatives


 Jonathan Desaussure


“Life isn’t about how hard you can hit; it’s about how much you can get hit and keep moving forward.” – Rocky Balboa

(Movie, Balboa 2006)


Everyone has negative situations occur in their lives. Negative happens to all of us. There’s no escaping it. There are two things you need to do when you are facing adversity.

Before I tell you what they are, I want to prove it to you with your help. You’ll get it by taking note of the person and his behavior I’ll talk about in my anecdote.

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Perceive the Power of Persistence – it’s in you.

Energy and Persistence Conquer all things. – Benjamin Franklin


If you have lived long enough, you’ll have noticed that there is a natural order to things.  It takes a while for us to see that order sometimes, but its there.  It’s always there.  God  has put it there in hopes that we would see it and discover  a law in effect.

Lets looks at some examples.  I ‘ll call this the law of persistence. When you and I exercise consistently, do we not get more fit? Have you ever seen trees grow in places that would seem impossible for them grow?  Did you know it took 5-6 million years for the Colorado River to form the Grand Canyon?  Now that’s persistent.

What all these examples have in common is opposition, resistance – something  in the way of it’s objective. Now, is that the blessing or the curse? I guess it depends on how we decide to look at it.  Those of us that have goals don’t have 6 million years to achieve them. If we don’t take into account we have limited time, I vote this way of looking at resistance is a curse. However; if we look at the obstacles as a necessary factor in development, that is the blessing.  We all have the ability to adapt. God designed it that way.  We adapt in our minds if we have the mental capacity to do so, and  we adapt in our bodies. If that’s true, then why don’t we all have what we want? That’s another seminar, but one of the most obvious reasons is what I call the challenge vs comfort rule.  Comfort is nice. It doesn’t require much mental or physical energy. There is no pain.  That’s the permanent sweet spot for most of us.  You know what I’m talking about.  It’s much easier to eat that slice of pecan pie that’s 800 calories than it is to do 800 calories of exercise to burn it off.  To achieve, we must press on until. That requires energy, pain, sacrifice, and discipline. In other words, putting ourselves in the challenge zone.

So what’s pushing you no? What has you frustrated? What situation is nonsense to you to deal with, but necessary to conquer in order to achieve your goal?   Don’t be discouraged. Press on. I’m going to talk to you like I talk to myself.  Look the damn problem in the eye and kick it’s ass.  I kick your problems *%!. You will eventually win. If you don’t achieve your goal when you want, at least you’ll be a lot further along.

Smile and be blessed.

Jonathan Desaussure




Jonathan Desaussure

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Life isn’t always about holding good cards,
but playing a bad hand well. – Jack London

Two men are sitting behind their desks, which happen to be directly across from one another. Daniel, who is thirty five, wearing a dark blue suit, and a red tie, leans back in his chair and kicks his feet on top of his desk, so everyone can see his black, time-honored, wing–tip shoes. He’s chews on the tip of his pen, as he looks at Henry, who is forty, wearing dingy grey pants, a short-sleeve white shirt, and a clip-on tie.
“You got that position yet?” Henry asks Daniel with a tone of sarcasm in his voice, hoping to knock the expression of confidence off of Daniels face. Daniel takes his pen out of his mouth and says,
“I just want you to know, that position as the assistant director of administration is mine. Don’t you worry about it.”
“Yeah right,” says Henry. “That’s what you’ve been saying for the past two years. They aren’t going to hire you. They haven’t given it to anybody. You should give up. Nobody is gonna get it.”
“They will my friend, They will,” says Daniel. “They have to. Only Slater and I qualify for the job, and I have the most experience.”
“Says who?” asks Henry.
“Morrison,” says Daniel, and then a smug smile settles on his face.
“Morrison wouldn’t know his ass from a hole in the ground. Why don’t you just give it up and be happy working along with the rest of us ordinary worker bees, man,” says Henry.
Daniel rolls his eyes, puts his feet down, turns away from Henry, and goes back to work. While he’s working, he pauses a moment, glances at Henry, and mumbles to himself, “I don’t know why I even talk to that guy. He has no motivation what’s so ever.”

Morrison, who is fifty, stout, and clean shaven, walks into the work room. The light conversation and papers rustling in the background fade to silence. All eyes fall upon him. There is a long awkward moment, as he looks back at all the faces that are looking at him. The expressions on their faces let him know, that they know, something is up. He clears his throat and announces,
“It has been bought to my attention that the company is downsizing.” Immediately, there’s a short wave of verbal expressions, contorted faces, and sighs of shock. Henry’s mouth drops open. Daniel is puzzled. His face shows it. He scratches his head.

Morrison continues, “At lunch today, all of you please stop by the personnel office and pick up an envelope with your name on it. In that envelope will be a letter that tells you if you are laid off, or if you’ll get minimal part time.”
“What the hell is minimal part time?” asks Henry.
“Between eight and fifteen hours a week,” says Morrison, and then, he turns around and walks out of the room. The workers trade blank stares.

It’s lunch time. There’s a line of people outside the entrance of the personnel office. “Patricia Slater,” yells a woman from inside the office. Slater walks into the office rather slowly. The woman barks out some other names. Some employees walk out of the office, upset. Slater walks past Henry and Daniel, distraught.
Daniel gives Salter a sideways glance.
“Did you see that, Henry? Slater is balling. Maybe she got the ax.”
“You’re gonna get it too buddy. They are seriously downsizing. That gets cut from the top,” says Henry.

The woman calls Daniel’s name. He walks into the personnel office and over to the desk. With an expressionless face, she hands him his envelope. He takes it, opens it, and looks inside. The woman calls Henry’s name. He swallows hard and walks up to the woman. He takes his envelope and looks inside.

Daniel and Henry meet in the hallway moments later.
“What did you get?” asks Daniel.
“Doesn’t matter. I quit! Damn this crap,” says Henry, and then he slaps his envelope into Daniels hand and walks away. Daniel looks at Henry’s notice. It says Henry will work eleven hours a week. Daniel shakes his head and says to himself, “I don’t know what he’s complaining about. They only gave me eight. I’ll use the extra thirty two hours to look for another job.”

Events like this happen every day. There isn’t such a thing as living in a perfect world. Unexpected pregnancies, sudden divorces, or surprise chronic sicknesses, are among the things that happen us all. Surprise events are the strong winds that blow on us suddenly and from any given direction. It’s just one of those things are beyond our control. You may be thinking, Jonathan, what are we poor souls to do in such when things hit us like that? Just be dust in the wind? Roll over and wet on ourselves? Let the winds of changes take us where they may? I say no! I’ve learned to keep on keeping on. We must remember we always have the power to choose how we are going to respond to adversity. Henry took his news and probably made his situation worse by quitting in anger. Daniel chose to use the new found free time to find profitable work elsewhere. Same situation for both men, but very different responses to the situation, and their responses will make all the difference in their futures. As we move down the river of life, we are bound to hit the rapids at some point on our journey.

Here are five things we can do to help us navigate life’s rapids.

  1. Don’t give into doubts. Once we think we can’t, we can’t.
  2. Decide not to make things worse.
  3. Decide where we want to go from that point and get going.
  4. Decide to be resilient in the pursuit of what it is you want.
  5. Dot the best you can. You’ll get better if you don’t quit.

Join me next time when I share a much needed skill to help you handle the adversity.

I hope this helps you and blesses you in some situation you may be facing in your life. Remember, it ain’t over until it’s ALL over.


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By the way, I recently released volume two of my determined to win series entitled RESILIENCE. Check it out of you want learn about two characters that were dealt a bad hand and still decided to play to win.

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays

Hello all. It’s been a minute or two since I’ve blogged an entry.  I had tucked myself away to finish a project I was working on entitled “RESILIENCE.” It’s volume two of a series I’m working on.  I’m offering it at a discount through the holidays for those who are interested.  You can get the details of the book here.  Before you go purchase, be sure to take this code with you: (DRDJFHUJ) It allows you the 15 % discount for the paperback only.

No a quick note to the nature of my blog.

As you go through the holidays, relax and reflect, but don’t throw off all restraint. It’s the time of year where many, gain weight, get sick, and go into debt. Remember, it back to the business of ordinary life when the holidays are over.  Rest and come back ready to rumble toward your goals.

Resilience is all about being able to overcome the unexpected. Sustainability is about survival. The goal of resilience is to thrive. –

Jamais Cascio
Happy Holidays, love, peace, and much prosperity in every area of your life.
Jonathan Desaussure

Your Chances for Great Achievement and Success Increase If You Tweak This One Overlooked Thing

By Jonathan Desaussure

“Coming together is the beginning, staying together is progress, working together is success.” – Henry Ford.

Allow me to paint the picture of my point with an anecdote.
It is early afternoon. A little girl gets off the bus in an average neighborhood. As she’s walking up the driveway to her house, a fat-head kid sticks his head out of the bus’s window and screams,
“Hey four eyes! You think you are so smart don’t you? You just look smart. Really, you’re dumb, and your glasses don’t make you look smart either. You’re uglier than they are!”
The little girl pays little attention to him with her eyes, but much attention to him with her ears. The words he screamed to her cut deep into her heart. She shakes if off, hikes her heavy backpack up higher on her shoulder, and glances at the bus as it’s pulling away. She steps through the front door into a house full of cigarette smoke. The TV is blaring. Her dad is slouching on the couch – one hand is holding a beer, and the other stuffed in his pants.
“Hi Dad…” says the girl. Cigarette ashes fall off the tip of the cigarette as he says,
“I left those damn dishes in the sink for you. Take core of that for me, would ya?” he looks down at the ashes lying on top of the beer can.
“Damn,” he shouts, and then, he blows the ashes off the beer can onto the floor.
The girl walks into the kitchen. She heaves her book sack off her shoulder and drops it. It sounds like a ton of bricks hit the floor. She turns and looks at the mile-high pile of dishes. They seem to have taken on a life of their own and expanded all over the counter tops since she had last seen them that morning. She exhales pure frustration, turns toward her dad, and says,
“Dad, I have a ton of homework I have to do. Could I …?”
“- I work my ass off to the bone all the time,” he says, interrupting her. “Shit I need a day off too you know! All you do is go to school. I don’t know what the hell you go for. They can’t be teaching you anything because you’re still dumb as hell when you get home. As far as I’m concerned, you shouldn’t even have to go.”
There’s a moment of silence, he points a crocked finger at her and says, “You can do your damn homework later.” The little girl sits at the kitchen table, puts her elbows on the table, and rests her chin in her hands. Her dad sees her sulking, and says,
“You know I love you, right?” Then, the TV’s volume goes from loud to blaring.
Questions: Do you think she and her dad are close? Do you think her atmosphere allows her to focus, develop, and prosper to a point to where she can accomplish healthy goals for herself?

Let’s look at the same physical setting but with a different relationship dynamic. Inside the house, dad is lying on the couch watching the game. His hands are not down his pants. He hears the brakes on the school bus squeak in front of the house. He gets up, walks to the door, and opens it just in time to see his little princess step off the bus. As he’s watching his daughter hurry up the driveway, he hears the fat-head, smart-alack kid shout insults to his daughter. He greets her at the door with a hug and a smile. He holds the door open for her and she steps inside.

Once they are inside, he helps her take off her huge backpack. She stands on her tip-toes and gives her dad a kiss on the cheek.
“Thanks Dad,” she says.
“How was school today?” he asks.
“It was good. I learned a lot. I have a lot of homework to do. I want to get an A this semester.”
“Who was that kid with the smart mouth on the bus?” asks her dad.
“Tommy Tomkins. He’s just a bully.”
“I can see that. I want you to stay away from him and don’t let anything he says to you settle into that little brain of yours. You got me?” The little girl nods in the positive.
“You are not what anyone else thinks you are, but you are what you think you are. That’s very important. I’m the only one you have to listen to. I think you are brilliant,” says Dad. The little girl tackles her dad with a hug.
“Come on. Let’s get these dishes out of the way. You have an appointment with those books. To get the reward, you have to put in the time.”

That’s a totally different scenario that the first one, isn’t it? Even if I wanted to be a looser, I would still rather have the second dad. How about you? The love, cooperation, and understanding between them provide a healthy emotional and relational atmosphere that breeds a healthy self-image, which is conducive to achievement and accomplishment. I observed individuals in different environments to see if their environments made a difference on their potential to achieve success in any worthwhile goal for them. I’ve also read about how destructive situations tend to dampen development and cause mental problems. The Netherlands Institute for the Study of Crime and Law researcher, Karin Beijersbergen, says that good guard-prisoner relationships decrease misconduct, and decrease mental health problems among the inmates. Is it nature or is it nurture? Is it both? I’ve always thought both played a part but with stronger emphasis on environment. There are a lot of variables to consider when making that judgment, but most often; all a person needs is an environment adjustment. A person’s total genetic makeup can’t be changed; however, a person’s total environment can. Why else would people given the right set of environmental conditions eventually succeed, given they actually wanted to.

Here’s my point. Relationships are part of a person’s success environment and always will be. Environment is the fertile ground in which success and achievement blossom. Not everybody can choose to change their relationships, like that little girl with the bad dad I was talking about earlier, but sooner or later, there will come a chance when one will be able to do something about his or her situation. Most of us right now can do something about this variable. I encourage you to choose your relationships wisely, and more importantly, choose the direction in which your relationships grow if possible. Surround yourself with those who celebrate you and your efforts. Shy away from those that condemn you for trying something or for merely being different. Don’t hate them or hold a grudge. Just leave the bad ones alone. It makes a difference when there is love and harmony in your relationships. You pull for or with each other instead of working against each other. That’s synergy. Friction retards progress because the people involved in the friction are busy putting pulling in different directions and mentally working on putting themselves back together rather than working on a goal. I was at a business conference a couple of years ago and a guest speaker said this to us,
“It’s easier to run with twenty that it is to drag one.” Hum, I though to myself, and I let that sink into my brain and I put it to practice. I found that when I start to move in a new direction, I ended up by myself.  It’s still that way. After a while, others with like mindsets show up. It’s just the way it is. It’s a law of attraction thing. We all need each other in different types of relationships like business, kinship, or friendship. If there is a need for relationships, we might as well make our relationships positive ones, amen. After all, a king is not a king without his subjects. I hope this one drives the point home. I encourage you in your journey of success and hope I’ve made you think about that often overlooked key to success and achievement, positive relationships.
Be blessed and prosper much.
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Additional reading on relationships and relationship dynamics

  1.  Linda Nielsen is a professor of educational and adolescent psychology, How Dads Affect Their Daughters into Adulthood, Family Studies, 2013

2.  Michael J. Formica MS, MA, EdM, Understanding the Dynamics of Abusive Relationships,  Psychology Today, July 2008